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Christian Men and Chinese Women - What Are The Chances? by John Abbot

The following is provided with permission, with comments specific to Christian men wishing to find their match among Chinese women to follow:

"These days, dating can be a complicated matter. You would think that in an era of emerging technology like the one we're currently in, tools like the internet might make things at least a little bit easier. Most certainly in some ways, the Web and online dating sites do help in making things more convenient. But when someone has very specific requirements in a partner, those specific requirements can make finding a suitable match difficult. Take, for instance, the case of a person who is a Christian and is seeking a Christian partner, but also prefers a mate of a different ethnic heritage. How difficult can it be to find Christian dating interracial singles who are actively seeking a similar mate?
"I think we all probably recognize the fact that ethnic and religious issues can complicate the dating equation these days," says relationship expert and internet author Wendell K. Cribbs. "Finding a suitable mate from a wide open field of choices is tough enough. But when you narrow your search down so specifically, such as those who are Christian dating interracial singles looking for others with the same religious background and same attraction for a different ethnicity, things can get even tougher. Some call it being picky, but I call it being able to find your own best match".
One good example is Rashan, a 34-year-old professional single woman who is the mother of three young children. Rashan is a devout Christian who is completely uncompromising about her religious beliefs. Complicating matters for Rashan, who is of African-American heritage, is that she's primarily attracted to Caucasian men. That makes Rashan a Christian dating interracial single who is looking for someone who not only shares her passion for religion, but is also open to dating members of a different ethnic heritage.
"It can be really hard," Rashan says. "I meet a lot of single guys at church, but they're not my type. I'm just not attracted to black men, I find myself more drawn to men who are white. That means that I have a hard time finding men who have the same religious beliefs that I do and also meet my definition of a man I'm physically attracted to".
And Rashan illustrates the struggle that faces women and men like her, all Christian dating interracial singles who face an uphill climb to find a suitable mate who meets all of their requirements. At times, it may seem like compromise may be in order to help improve their social life, but relationship expert Cribbs warns that this might not be a good move in the long run.
"Don't try to change who you are, "Cribbs states.  "In the long run, it won't be healthy for your relationship.  If you're a Christian dating interracial single, don't be afraid to go after exactly who you want in a mate"."
The Lord's Prayer in Chinese courtesy of Wikipedia.
We concur entirely with the comments of Mr. Cribbs that a man must seek his match among those women he desires, but want to address briefly whether to do so should be daunting to Christian men seeking a Chinese woman for a lifemate. The first consideration is that China is largely devoid of religion and Christians in China are a small minority out of the whole. How small is open to argument.
Wikipedia says "According to recent studies, there are roughly 54 million Christians in China, of which 39 million are Protestants and 14 million are Roman Catholics...", while on the low extreme the Government of China indicates the number is more like 14 million in total and other sources reach 130 million on the high extreme. All I can tell you is that I have met approximately 300 Chinese in 7 years that I came to know well enough to know if they were Christian and I can count among them 2 who have adopted that particular faith. But let's give the nod to Wikipedia since it's in the middle - that suggests that 1 in 26 Chinese women are currently Christian.
That doesn't seem like many but it is actually about 25 million women in total.
Now let's look at the more interesting fact that only 400 million Chinese, by the wildest guestimates I've ever seen, hold any religious beliefs. That leaves 900 million non-religious Chinese. If we assume that half of those are women then we have an additional 450 million Chinese ladies who, while not presently Christian, are quite likely open to consider learning about and accepting the Christian faith.
In total then we have about 475 million Chinese women who either are Christian or are not necessarily against becoming Christian. According to there are a total of roughly 2 billion Christians in the world. If half of those are men then there are 1 billion male Christians in the world. Let's assume that 50% of those are single men of an age to be interested in a long term relationship, which I suggest is a very high assumption. That's a maximum of 500 million available single Christian men.
Unless all 500 million of them are seriously seeking a Chinese lifemate there would seem to be lots of eligible Chinese women to go around. Personally I think that a Christian male of any race or colour has an excellent chance of finding a Chinese woman who is Christian or can be persuaded to adopt the Christian faith. 
And that is my Christmas present to all you Christian guys out there who are members of CLM.  

From: Original         Author: John Abbot         Time: 3/5/2010 4:31:32 PM

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#2014-10-19 18:07:00 by Map1 @Map1
Reply I have met a number of wonderful Christian women both on the CLM and ALM sites. If you go to the Three Self or home groups in China you'll find a majority of the attendees are woman. So this is a problem, particularly for Chinese women who are Christ followers. As the Scriptures say they don't want to be "unequally yoked," which comes from the image of two oxen joined together and each wants to go into a different direction. Linda Chen writes in her blog entitled, "Why Chinese Women Like Western Men," that one of the major reasons is that they can't find a Chinese Christian husband.
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